Counseling and Neurofeedback
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Board-Certifed in Neurofeedback

Couples Counseling

Falling in love is the easy part.

Remember when communicating was simple? You could talk half the night, go on walks, discover new things together. You shared your hopes and dreams. Wouldn’t it be great to get that back?

But eventually all couples run up against differences. When you do, communication can be difficult. It’s not the differences that cause trouble, though. It’s the way you negotiate them. You might have one of these concerns:


You try to bring up problems with your partner in a diplomatic way, but end up arguing despite your best intentions. Or you keep your concerns quiet, wanting to sort them out but not wanting to rock the boat. Either way, it’s exhausting. If you find yourself disagreeing more often than not, it’s time for a change. Maybe your arguments go in circles, or you avoid bringing up difficult topics.


Everyone wants to matter. Appreciation, affection, and physical intimacy help you feel important, connected, and desired. Couples counseling can help you talk more comfortably about affection and sex, and bridge differences in your levels of desire. Feeling connected verbally and physically can help you find once again that spark of understanding and closeness.


Maybe the marriage you thought was rock-solid seems suddenly shaky after a betrayal. You want to get through the crazy feelings and back to trust, but you’re not sure how. You’d like to leave the past behind, but you’re not sure how to deal with the the anger and hurt.


Bring back warmth, fun, and love

Every relationship goes through rough spots. They’re normal. But If you’ve tried to get through them on your own and you’re not getting anywhere, couples counseling can make a big difference. You can learn to use those rough spots to make your relationship stronger.

Couples counseling can help you manage disagreements respectfully, repair breaks in trust, and reconnect. Each session will provide the opportunity for you to…

  • Communicate openly and honestly
  • Resolve problems, disagree respectfully, and learn from your differences
  • Stay calm, even when your partner gets upset
  • Feel more connected with your partner
  • Build a stronger, more honest relationship


Couples counseling can help you feel close again

Imagine talking through difficulties, even big ones, with respect and warmth. Picture yourself spending relaxed time with each other – a walk on the beach, your favorite restaurant. Imagine keeping your marriage vibrant and alive by talking about things that are most meaningful to each of you. You’ll learn how to…

  • Change negative communication patterns that keep you stuck
  • Keep your conversations on-topic, so you get somewhere instead of arguing in circles
  • Find common ground when you have different values
  • Create daily habits that build love and intimacy
  • Change the emotional tone of a conversation
  • Know how and when to apologize

As a couples counselor, I offer a new perspective on your relationship, and give you tools to make the changes you want. I use proven methods and years of clinical experience to help you build intimacy and passion in your relationship.

Since 1987, I have helped hundreds of single, married, and partnered clients rebuild trust, feel new energy and passion, and make choices from their heart. Like everything worthwhile, it takes some effort. But the rewards are great: a relationship where you feel cared for, appreciated, and close.

About Pat

In my 17 year marriage and as the mother of twins, I’ve learned what it takes to build a happy, rewarding relationship – humor, compassion for yourself and your partner, a willingness to forgive, and a commitment to take the time you need to build the relationship you want. As a couples counselor I’m active and energetic, and I offer ideas, feedback, and strategies. We don’t just talk about problems — you learn practical strategies that help you feel heard by the person you love. From the very first session, you’ll start to look at your relationship in a new way.

You can choose from:

  • Heart to Heart Couples Counseling
  • Saturday Private Retreats
  • Practical, Solution-Focused “Should I Stay or Go” Counseling

There is a process to relationship change, and in the past 27 years I’ve helped hundreds of couples through that process. If you’re looking for an evidence-based approach that makes a real difference, you’re in the right place.

Ready to get started?

If you think Couples Therapy might be a fit for you, give me a call. We’ll talk for ten minutes about what you’d like for your relationship and how you can get there.
Contact me for more information:

  • Call 510.277.0456
  • Email
  • Text 510.684.2975.
  • Or just click the button below to schedule a time that works

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