Imagine a delicious meal — but without any of its usual seasoning. A bit boring maybe? Sometimes textbook reading seems kind of like that. In fact, one of clients told me that when he tried to read he “zoned out,” and by the end of the article he had forgotten what the point was. Although
Social media makes you lonely If you’re like most people, you might assume that social media connects us. But it’s also true that social media makes you lonely. How could being connected to people make you more lonely? Here’s how it happens: Popularity is Measured in Clicks In the past, popularity was often measured by how many
Learning to manage study time can be a challenge, especially in high school. That’s when students usually have the most structure and the least free time.It can be especially tricky on days when you’re loaded with homework.Some students jump right into homework, thinking they don’t have time for a break. For other students, the break
Multitasking and teens… My client Josh sits in front of his computer after school, working on an essay for his history class. He stops for a minute to answer a text from a friend asking if he has the night’s math homework. In between sentences, he answers email, adds some music files to iTunes, checks a friends
The top three myths about stress… When you think about stress, if you’re like most people, you probably think about what’s happening in your life – tension at work, a disagreement with your partner, your child’s recent bout with the flu, or the list of 237 things you were hoping to get done over the
If you’ve ever wondered how to get good grades, maybe something like this has gone through your mind… I’m not good at languages. History isn’t my thing. I’m not a math person. I often hear comments like this from my clients when they’re explaining a low test score or struggling with a tricky assignment. These comments seem logical
Stress for teens is increasing. According to a recent national survey, most teens spend a lot of energy managing stress. More than a quarter of teens in the U.S. say they experience “extreme stress,” and more than a third expect their stress to get worse in the next year. In general, teens are more stressed
How to Give Advice to Teens Here’s a question I hear from parents a lot – and to be fair, it’s one I’ve asked myself many times: How come when I suggest something to my daughter she gets mad, but when someone else says the same thing she acts as though it’s a brilliant piece of
Workplace stress is at an all-time high. A recent poll shows that more than 80% of U.S. workers are stressed about their jobs. Stress not only affects your health, job satisfaction, and well-being, but also what you get done. Workplace stress makes people less efficient, less productive, and creates tension. There’s been a lot of
The Homework Bottleneck Do you wish sometimes that there was a simple way to end procrastination around homework? First, take a minute and ask yourself which of these scenarios sounds more like your teen? Both students have the same class and homework assignment. Student 1 walks in the door after school, drops his backpack by the
Most teens (83%) say that school is a significant source of stress in their life. Here’s how you can help your teen manage school stress. For teens, stress looks like this: Getting to school late Feeling irritable Feeling tired a lot Crying a lot…or snapping at you Leaving things until the last minute, and then panicking If
Time management for teens is an executive functioning skill which is essential for academic success. Since I started “Skills for Academic Success”, I’ve heard more and more questions about time management from teens. Here’s how Keith put it: “I want to do a good job on my homework. But by the time I’m finished, I don’t have enough time
Academic coaching a guide for parents… Academic coaching a guide for parents The focus of academic coaching is to help students learn. With coaching, students typically do better on tests, improve their grades, reduce school-related stress, and learn valuable life skills. Before taking a more in-depth look at what academic life coaching is, let’s take a
Imagine you’re driving through the countryside on a beautiful day, but your car isn’t working. The gears keep getting stuck, and the gas pedal is jammed down. So instead of enjoying the scenery, you’re constantly focused on what might go wrong and how you can prevent it.
Is this one of those days when you’re wondering how you managed to get so much on your plate? Stress management and gratitude can help.
Stress management tools are part of your early warning system. When this system doesn’t work the way it’s supposed to, it’s less like the whirring of a well-functioning motor and more like the annoying high-pitched beep of a super-sensitive smoke alarm. These 5 simple stress management tools system working at its best.
Boost your productivity this year by making these 4 focusing questions part of your routine.
If you’re a people pleaser, it’s easy to say yes when someone asks for help. But when your Yes is automatic, your schedule can start to feel like a traffic jam, and your ability to get things done is stalled.
Complaints are often well-intended. However well-intended, complaints also have some downsides. With powerful questions you can create a complaint-free workplace.
Whether you want to lose weight, clean the garage, prepare for a test, or finish a project, you have to find a way to start. Sometimes motivation is elusive. If you don’t feel it, however, you need to create it. Read more about motivation here.
Are you looking for away to avoid an argument? Here’s the situation: Amy assumed that she and her husband Jeff would host a large holiday gathering in November, as they always did. Jeff, on the other hand, was hoping for some quiet time, perhaps a vacation just for just the two of them. He was
My client Kathleen, a working mom, had a surprisingly common complaint: “There just aren’t enough hours in the day to do everything I need to do.” It’s true that she was juggling a lot – her job as an architect, a busy pre-teen, a volunteer position, and an active family life. But none of these
Once you step outside of your comfort zone, you move into the territory of emotional risk. How can you manage that risk so that you can accomplish your goals?
If you’re like most people, you want to feel motivated to take care of yourself. But sometimes you’d rather not do it – run 2 miles in the rain, finish your Spanish homework, track your expenses. When you’re in a certain mental space, those things seem boring. Naturally, you’d rather do something interesting, like check
How do you get yourself to do something when you don’t really want to do it? Understanding this is one of the secrets to motivation.
What’s wrong with being busy? How you feel is not so much how much you do, but how you do it. Here’s how to “un-busy” yourself.
In times of crisis, it can feel like you’re at the mercy of events that are outside of you. And when you start to feel like that, your time gets sucked up into managing the crisis. But what we need most in a pinch doesn’t depend on circumstances, and isn’t about time. Our choice lies in how we use the time and the resources we have.
Life is full of opportunities. But if you end up saying yes to all of it, then before you know it you end up, overcommitted & stressed out. Here’s how to balance the Yes and the No.
In the past month I’ve been checking in with my clients about how far they’ve come and where they want to go next. We’ve been focusing on what matters to them most as they look forward to 2015. Aleesha is looking for meaningful work. She tells me that education jobs are scarce, and indeed she’s
The real world is full of requests, problems, and challenges. That’s just what life is like. Holiday shopping in August isn’t going to solve the problem. For a stress-free holiday, what we really need is a new perspective.
Stress can create problems with concentration, focus, memory, moodiness, and overwhelm. But sometimes, part of the problem is how you think about the problem. Stress isn’t really one thing; it’s two.
Do you ever feel stressed out about the demands of day-to-day life? If so, here are some surprisingly simple ways to boost your mood.
When you procrastinate, you end up with long hours and last minute crises. You feel exhausted and frazzled and stressed. Here’s an unusual way of looking at procrastination, and an action-oriented strategy to address it.
Ely was excited about his new job. He’d spent a year looking, and found what he wanted – interesting work, good pay, friendly people. Perfect, right?
According to the Centers for Disease Control, some 60 million people in the U.S. have sleep problems-almost 20% of the population. If you’re one of these people, one of these simple strategies might help.
Saying ‘No’ is tricky, especially to people you care about, but the benefits are many. This outline describes when and how to say ‘No’ so you can say ‘Yes’ to the things that really matter.
The trouble with arguments is that they don’t work. With some skill, though, you can learn to stop them, so you can get on with solving the real concerns. Here’s how.
My client Wendy is looking at her list of New Year’s Resolutions – worthy goals that get lost in the rush of everyday life. These 5 simple strategies can help.
Have you ever been in a hurry and driving? It seems like everything’s an obstacle. The traffic lights turn red at just the wrong time, stop signs and pedestrians appear out of nowhere, and the tree-lined streets you’re passing through are just a blur.
Whether you want to lose weight, clean the garage, prepare for a test, or finish a project, you have to find a way to start. Sometimes motivation is elusive. If you don’t feel it, however, you need to create it.